Last weekend I took the second in my series of trips around Korea to gather more information to share with you. Throughout the weekend, I was able to get 18 different girls to stop their evening and do an interview with me.
What blew me away was how incredibly open these girls were in sharing their intimate details, as long as nobody else was around to hear it. There were two girls in particular, the only two I met at a particular bar, who were extremely forthcoming regarding their dating and sexual histories. We had met only moments before, and they were already sharing their deepest secrets with me. I found that asking for interviews with the girls in a low-key quieter bar was much more successful than stopping girls on the street to ask them, as those street interviews were heavily colored because they wanted to do it with their friends around instead of one on one.
I could instantly tell when the girls started lying or changing their answers to conform to the norm or avoid being viewed as the slut of the group. However, even those lies and the way the girls tell them revealed some good insights about their behaviors and practices in private as opposed to what they tell their friends.
Each interview would last about 5 to 10 minutes, depending on the answers the girls gave. I had an outline of questions that I was starting with, but I would add or change the line of questions if the girls gave me something I found interesting or informative. For example, one girl told me that she had only had one Korean boyfriend, and had since only dated foreigners.
This led me to start asking her questions about where she meet them, what attracted her to them, and other pertinent details that I think other men would find helpful.
