Mistress Electra Amore was just 21 years old when she attended her first job interview at a bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism BDSM dungeon. As a teenager, her naturally dominant personality and love of fashion inspired by Madonna's Erotica era earned her the nickname "Madame Lash" from her friends.
It was a friend who suggested she'd make a good dominatrix and gave her the address of a Melbourne dungeon they had found in the phone book. Although it took her multiple tries to get an interview, Electra persisted until she was finally told that yes, the dungeon did have space to take on a new trainee who wanted to learn how to become a professional dominatrix.
And that's how she found herself standing outside the unassuming terrace house in Melbourne's suburbs, waiting nervously as she heard the click-clack of high stiletto heels walking towards her down the corridor. But we had a chat, and she told me when I could start. While Fifty Shades of Grey may lead us to think that anyone with access to a blindfold and a pair of handcuffs can command worship from anyone they desire, Electra tells me that it's not always so simple. A Dominatrix could seriously injure or upset a submissive partner if they're not properly trained in how to use a piece of equipment or play out a scene with respect and consent.
Practising BDSM requires a wealth of knowledge about health and safety; and for some, years of training before they can practise professionally.
Not being naturally submissive, it was really challenging to kneel at someone's feet and pretend to be so. I was quite a feisty person, and that really tested me. A bad experience during a session with one of the visiting Masters cut short Electra's work as a submissive after only three months. Back then, consent wasn't spoken about as much as it is now. We weren't really taught about consent like we are today," she said. Now with more than two decades of experience as a Dominatrix and alternative sex educator, Mistress Electra has since trained her own apprentices.
